Guest Anonymous Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 Question of the week. Can girls and guys be friends? is it impossible? what are your experiences from either side? all comments please... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trout Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 Platonic relationships ay? Hmm ...? People think that they are possible .. but I reckon that theres always one of the two in the relationship that "would if they could"! if you get my drift? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Anonymous Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 Think you are right trout. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yowe Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 Of course they can! I reckon it is often the case that one fancies the other or whatever but it is definately possible for guys and girls to be friends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Njugle Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 Platonic relationships ay? Hmm ...? People think that they are possible .. but I reckon that theres always one of the two in the relationship that "would if they could"! if you get my drift? Disagree strongly, me old trout. Without hearing your full justification for your reckoning i'll bite my tongue, and instead pose a scenario, 20 year old happily married guy, 60 year old happily married woman. Impossible for them to be good friends without sexual undertones? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trout Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 Yes I agree with your point Njugle - I'm probably just considering people that I know that are all around the same age group. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Njugle Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 Without getting personal; You are suggesting then that person 'A' who is friendly with similarly aged opposite sex 'B''C''D' etc. has sexual undertones with all of them? I think the point i'm trying to make is that it may well be the case that sometimes people attempt to mask attraction with friendship, but that that is a clear and distinct scenario from asexual friendship, which i would say is common, natural and healthy. The opinion of the opposite sex, both ways, propagates understanding. Viva la difference, and all that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Njugle Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 To coin a phrase, for an overtly primal aspect: You might well briefly think of chips whenever you see a fine looking tattie, but it doesn't mean you can never have mash and enjoy it as much. ps what about the gay issue: women/men etc., Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Anonymous Posted February 22, 2006 Report Share Posted February 22, 2006 I think they can: but it wont be the same type of friendship. Its hard to get too close to another woman - what will there boyfriends think? what is the agenda? its a tough one, personally, i dont have many female mates, basically because its too complicated, people always jump to conclusions: you must fancy her etc...what annoys me is people who are friends for there own ends Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jimmy Jimson Posted February 26, 2006 Report Share Posted February 26, 2006 I think it is possible to have a male-female relationship between people of the same age without sexual attraction playing a part, however, I know that whenever I become friends with a male (I am female) my boyfriend makes it an issue, thus the friendship can't work. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Anonymous Posted February 26, 2006 Report Share Posted February 26, 2006 I think it is possible to have a male-female relationship between people of the same age without sexual attraction playing a part, however, I know that whenever I become friends with a male (I am female) my boyfriend makes it an issue, thus the friendship can't work. well you can be my friend anytime u like - i am male and have heeps of femail friends, infact most of my palls are female, if you BF cant trust you then ditch him and find one that will! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Atomic Posted March 11, 2006 Report Share Posted March 11, 2006 A question here really for general comment. What do Shetlinkers think are the right boundaries (if any) between male and female friends? Thinking about physical contact, say, do you think it's appropriate for male-female friends to kiss, for example, on the lips or on the cheek? What about if one of the friends has a boyfriend/girlfriend? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Njugle Posted March 11, 2006 Report Share Posted March 11, 2006 Aye chihuahua! That's a hot potato. Plenty of conflicts there, many types of kiss, many types of contact, from a touch on the arm to a full-scale funfight brawl (recommended! ) hmmm.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Njugle Posted March 12, 2006 Report Share Posted March 12, 2006 .......hmmm. Friends are friends right? So it shouldn't matter what gender they are in terms of behaviour. It is okay for a male to kiss male on the cheek (thinking football here) but is it appropriate for same gender friends to kiss on the lips? The exception here for opposite genders is, of course, New Year or Birthdays. Physical contact? Well it depends on what is being contacted surely? And as to the boyfriend/girlfriend issue, the only consideration here is the feelings of the partner, a secure partner would have no probs with a partner who is touchy/feely/huggy but i don't think anyone would be really comfortable with a partner who insists on "lip-kissing" "friends" without justification, or eg. grabbing butts! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Anonymous Posted March 14, 2006 Report Share Posted March 14, 2006 I think its ok for females and males to be mates, as long as they are not sh**ing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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