khitajrah Posted April 21, 2008 Report Share Posted April 21, 2008 I'm sitting here with my morning coffee listening to my 8 year old throw a complete wobbly in his time-out and I'm wondering what do other folk do in regards to discipline? Any tips and suggestions? What has worked for you? 3 minutes left of time out..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frances144 Posted April 21, 2008 Report Share Posted April 21, 2008 Stay firm. Your house - your rules. Remember, you are not asking for rocket science just good behaviour. I am a great believer in taking responsibility for your actions. Children are very capable of this too. Keep going. Don't give in. It is not easy but you will have a much nicer child at the end of the day. Fx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MJ Posted April 21, 2008 Report Share Posted April 21, 2008 Sending child to bedroom, I find works as well as it did with me 20+ years ago. Of course not having computer/TV etc in room helps.But try to remember how you reacted to different punishments and why. When my 9yearold has calmed down enough (or occasionally when I've calmed down enough) I usually try to discuss what caused the punishment.Tantrums are best ignored completely - though I occasionally like to stand and laugh and agree that I am the "Worst mother in the world". Giving in is the worst thing possible to do, and if you speak with your child at a less stressful time they'll usually agree. forgot to say, but you'll probably remember yourself that being sent to your room alone, usually gives you time to think things over in private, where as the naughty chair is more like public humiliation Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fanman Posted April 21, 2008 Report Share Posted April 21, 2008 Send them to their room and ask them to think about why you have done so.Once you both calm down your then in a place to speak about it. It's worked fine with my two. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tlady Posted April 21, 2008 Report Share Posted April 21, 2008 It must be sometime in the air this weekend my normally very placid and well behaved 8 year old threw a wobbly last night throwing the toothbrush and paste! I'm personally not a great fan of "time out" especially if the child is still having a tantrum. As a toddler "tantrums" should be ignored and definitely not given into. But at 8 temper tantrums shouldn't be allowed to carry on. My 8 year old was exhausted as I'd relaxed the rule about no sleep-overs (even at the weekend) in term time .. wrong move !! As I very rarely ever raise my voice in the house it's very effective when I do. It scares the wits out of him and calms the situation, and I then also added some humour after by telling him he was much too young to act like a "Kevin/teenager". I will admit though that this method is not how I did it the first time round 20 years ago. Hindsight is a wonderful thing and I am much more relaxed with the whole upbringing thing this time round. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigMouth Posted April 21, 2008 Report Share Posted April 21, 2008 I think these days children generally know their rights and will be very quick to let you know what you are not entitled to do Best just to give in now and let them please themselves! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tlady Posted April 21, 2008 Report Share Posted April 21, 2008 As I said it's obviously something in the air just now .... even Big Mouth is a lot braver as normal Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairislefaerie Posted April 21, 2008 Report Share Posted April 21, 2008 Best thing is to not let the tantrums get you up or down. pay no attention until the child calms down, it doesnt take long for them to figure out that tantrums arent going to get them the attention they hoped it would. Its all part of growing up & finding yourself, kids have yet to find the ability to count to 10 & calm down, the odd overspill of emotions cant be avoided. Its just not fair that you have to be a kid to have an excuse for having a tantrum ! Many's the time us adults would love to have a kicking & screaming session when life doesnt run to plan ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frances144 Posted April 21, 2008 Report Share Posted April 21, 2008 full moon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MJ Posted April 21, 2008 Report Share Posted April 21, 2008 Its just not fair that you have to be a kid to have an excuse for having a tantrum ! Many's the time us adults would love to have a kicking & screaming session when life doesnt run to plan !Always figured that's what bread making was for. Know one women who prefers ironing (imagine the person who's ticked you off inside the garment), then the's the guy who peels tatties... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairislefaerie Posted April 21, 2008 Report Share Posted April 21, 2008 hehe I work on a crazyquilt when im feeling like that, sort of creative embroidery voodoo lol Angela Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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