Posted 07 February 2018 - 08:02 AM
Men are stronger than women? Wrong. Some men are stronger than some women. When a woman needs to summon strength she can, but when there is something to lift at work, a table to move, I notice the women take a step back. As in most things, women choose not to. Most of what we do these days has some level of automation or mechanical assistance. Strength is less of a reason to be a barrier to a woman taking on a physical role, but mostly they choose not to. There is one woman working on the essy kerts in Shetland, the rest are men. It is unlikely that there will be many bags of rubbish that will exceed 25 kilos, judging by what I throw away. Working in this environment needs stamina and a robust spirit more than it needs strength, but with the alternative of working in a nice warm office, rather than being rained on and having the juice of rubbish bags running down your overalls and the risk of broken glass cutting you, and the hideous pong, I can see why women flock in droves to office jobs.
Women are better at bringing up kids. Wrong. There is no reason why a man can't bring up children. Boys particularly thrive when they have good male role models. I spoke to a single mum with three boys to look after. She worked full time to support them, but she said that they didn't see a man from one week to the next. They were dropped off at school, where they were solely taught by female staff, were child-minded after school by a woman, and some evenings would do after school activities, including Cubs (or perhaps it was Scouts?), which was completely run by women. There was no boyfriend on the scene. I have no doubt that she was an excellent mum, but her greatest desire was that her boys had some male influence, she didn't necessarily want to be in a relationship, but could see the benefits and balance that men could bring.
Only men discriminate. Wrong. I was in a meeting not that long ago where a female department head proudly announced that she had got rid of all the men from her department. This took place in front of a dozen women and two men. If it had been a man saying that about women I am sure that man would have been having an interview without coffee with the personnel department. Different rules depending on your sex.
Domestic abuse is always caused by men. Wrong. As someone who has been on the end of domestic violence many years ago from a woman, I know that this is not the case. Women have a well funded support mechanism in Shetland along with places of safety. Guess what men have? Nothing. They go to Aberdeen if they are lucky. It's more likely that the man will say nothing about it, because he will be ashamed. Being a man on the end of domestic violence is not the norm. Society expects men to be strong in the same way that it expects women to be motherly.
Men have no say in the life of the unborn child. All too commonly women will decide to have a discretionary abortion, a lifestyle choice. The man has no say. The woman decides to dispose of that child and gets away with it. If a man was to murder that unborn child he would go to prison for it.
Women suffer the indignity of breast screening and cervical smears. Men suffer the indignity of prostate cancer. Somehow science can produce reliable screening tests for women, but when it comes to men's prostates - nothing.
Men's sperm is a valuable commodity, so much so that men who have donated that sperm to a sperm bank have been taken to court for maintenance for a child brought about by an altruistic act. Men's sperm has been stolen from used condoms by women who wanted to impregnate themselves, when the man was unwilling to have children. This is a good reason why men need more contraceptive choices. Women can have the pill or implants, or a variety of other devices, but for men? Nothing readily but the condom. Society does not want men to have sexual freedom. To which the answer will be that men sleep around. To which the obvious response is that if they are heterosexual, then surely they are sleeping around with women?
A man's career, his whole life can be ruined by an accusation of rape. Only recently a man was spared a court case at the final hour when the prosecution released evidence that showed that he was innocent. The accuser had made the rape up. If a woman can destroy a man's life so easily then the legal system should be putting the false accuser in prison. Desperate are the days when men are having to use their smartphones to record asking for permission to engage in sex with a woman.
I recently asked a woman if she could explain why for every one hundred patients GP surgeries saw, sixty were women and only forty were men. Her explanation was that women's bodies are more complicated. Could the reality be that services are skewed towards women to the disadvantage of men?
Political representation. I noticed that the SNP had officers for certain interest groups including: students, artists, women, disabled, etc., etc. It was odd that about the only group that did not have representation was men. I looked at the other parties and the same was true of them too. No representation for men, roughly 50% of the population are male.
Women have long retired at 60, whereas men worked on, usually in less comfortable jobs until they were 65, if they didn't die first of some hideous industrial illness. This was despite women usually living eight years longer on average and usually in better health, and this has been true for many decades. That gap has stayed much the same The retirement age is now somewhere between 65 and 67 for the majority of both sexes, which brings us somewhere closer to equality, but to reach parity in the number of likely years in retirement, men should retire at 67 and women should retire at 75. There is a campaign - WASPI - Women Against State Pension (age) Increase. It's a group of women that have been most affected by the fact that the pension age for the sexes has been aligned. They thought they were going to slope out of their nice warm offices at 60, then swan about at home in retirement for 26 years on average, but equality struck and they are now going to be retiring at 66, and they don't like it one bit. The problem is that when women get real equality they're not so keen on it. If we went back to the days of conscription, (not hard to imagine in the current situation that the military are finding it so hard to recruit, despite being a force that is reducing in size), in a truly equal society they would be calling up young women as well as young men to fight and die in our wars of choice around the world. It won't happen though because society finds the idea of fit young men dying in some god-forsaken hellhole so much more palatable than a young woman having to die in the same situation. Men's lives are worth less.
And when it comes to work look at the advantages given to women - one of their favourites is women only shortlists. That just a way of saying, we have men that are better, but the only way that any of you will get this job is by us not interviewing the better candidates. We are willing to accept second best. Men are yet again discriminated against. The trend has become more worrying when the BBC recently advertised a job where only applicants from black and minority ethnic backgrounds can apply. You're discriminated against if you are white.
Surely male and female genitals are of equal worth? Nope. If someone takes a scalpel to your genitals where there is no medical need then it's called genital mutilation, but only if you are female. If you are male then not even the World Health Organisation will recognise that your genitals are being mutilated, but if you are a woman they will organise a worldwide campaign - Female Genital Mutilation awareness week. Of course there are those of us that like to ask questions, raise awkward truths, so we contact the WHO and ask when is the Male Genital Mutilation awareness week? Unsurprisingly there was no response.
Why do married men die before their wives? Studies record the most common reason is because they wanted to!
Guys, women don't want equality. What they want is advantage. They will say that men have had it for long enough. Well girls, if it's not right for us, it's not right for you either is it? If you want the good stuff then take an equal amount of the crap us men have been taking for years. Don't be telling me that your granny was down the mines digging nutty slack with a babe at her breast. Tell me what you are doing now, the suffering of loading that washing machine, tumble dryer, dishwasher, that long drive to the shops or the wait in for that Tesco delivery van. I want to know everything. Tell me about having to walk over to the other side of the living room to get the remote for the TV/Sky box or whatever. Putting the cup under that bean to cup coffee maker or having to ring up for a hair appointment, and they probably won't have the magazine that you like. The cost of lipstick, having to tweezer your eyebrows to death so you look like an escapee from the circus, piercings and tattoos. Highlights, lowlights, botoxed lips, diets, central heating, car boots that close themselves, no quinoa on the shelves, panty liners, tottering around on heels that make you look afflicted, offices that despite being overheated are still not warm enough for you, men in your department (doing the heavy lifting usually). Girls - you've got so it hard. I don't know how you do it!
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